My people

You know who my people are?

 photo by Nicole De Khors

photo by Nicole De Khors

My people are hard-working type A's who are hell-bent on squeezing the most out of life.

My people spend their days solving problems for others and their nights dreaming about how they're going to change world.

My people get mistaken for superheros because they follow their super-human passions and create magical opportunities.

My people believe we are better when we lift each other up.

My people live & die by the moments they choose to laugh in the face of adversity, to connect in the moments they're scared and to explore new possibilities. Even when life sucks.

My people love deep conversations and aren't afraid to show up real.

My people have a deep burning desire to CELEBRATE.

My people are dreamers, visionaries, heart-led humans and I am so blessed to be surrounded by these wonderful people.

Who are your people?

photo by Nicole De Khors

TWO Choices for Clarity and Connection with Celebrate You™ in 2018

History of Celebrate You™

Historically, the Celebrate You™ gathering in January has been a half day spent wrapping up last year's lessons and thoughts and discovering the next year's intentions and inspired actions, then ending with a word of the year chosen by each of us.

2017 has been a year of growth for the Celebrate You™ movement and in an effort to include more women, we're offering two options for this first meeting.

Choices in 2018

We're expanding and you have two choices!

  1. A Weekend Retreat in Port Townsend, WA to expand the time for learning, connecting and celebrating yourself
  2. A One Day Retreat in Langley, WA the traditional time filled with meaningful connections and celebrations

Everyone is Welcome to Come

Just like in previous years, everyone is welcome to participate in this first meeting. No membership is required for these events. Both events will use the 2018 Celebrate You™ Workbook and offer similar content. 

Of course... we do hope that you continue the momentum by joining the 12-month self-discovery program called Celebrate You™.

Choose your Word of the Year

Do you choose a word of the year?

I've been selecting a word of the year for about 8 years and what I've found is that my word gives me permission to explore new ideas. I love the process and how it's evolved over time!

I started choosing a word by myself, with my last year's calendar in front of me so I could remember my main projects, life events, celebrations and struggles. Over the years, I started inviting my friends to join me and that evolved into what is now the Celebrate You™  movement. We start with a year-end review and intention-setting retreat in January and continue the monthly gatherings--including monthly topics and tools to live an authentic life and a workbook to hold all the content .

Here's a 2 page worksheet to get you started on your word!

And a link to the recording that accompanies the worksheet: "How (and Why) to Choose a Word of the Year".  The recording includes instructions on how to use the worksheet, a guided visualization that will help you find your word and a challenge--find a safe place to share your word: maybe at your family's holiday gathering or in another supportive environment.

Here's another resource--a Facebook live with me and Mary Anne Radmacher with ideas on choosing a word to guide your year. (Please forgive me looking at my phone screen at the beginning. My job was to make sure we were live, and my phone said we weren't. I was a little worried... )

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More Ideas on Choosing a Word of the Year

Here's another resource--a Facebook live with me and Mary Anne Radmacher with ideas on choosing a word to guide your year.

(Please forgive me looking at my phone screen at the beginning. My job was to make sure we were live, and my phone said we weren't. I was a little worried... )


Watch what happens when you take the conversation to this level of authenticity! 

I'd love to hear from you. What's your 2018 word?

Words to explore:

  • Intuition
  • Abundance
  • Health
  • Connection
  • Self-compassion
  • Boundaries
  • Savor
  • Self-care
  • Truth


Try it--the next time you've got family or friends around the dinner table, start the conversation. "I'm thinking about choosing a word of the year for next year. Who's in?" You might just be amazed at what happens next!

For more information about Celebrate You™ groups and how CY renews our commitment to our word every month, click here.

What the heck is a Life Coach?

When I people I'm a life coach, I get one of two responses. A smile with lit up eyes and "I've been wanting to learn more about life coaching" OR a confused, I-should-probably-go-now look.

This is for the people with the second response…

"OK, what's a life coach?" you ask, feeling a little weird about asking.

Here's my simple answer:



Here's my longer answer: A life coach helps you discover and clarify what you want most from life and helps you create a plan to achieve your version of success. Then she reminds you of your intentions as life happens, distractions come up and you temporarily get off your success path. Gentle accountability over time is key to extraordinary results.

Reasons to hire a life coach:

  • Feeling stuck in a career,
  • Disappointed with health issues,
  • Overwhelmed with parenting dilemmas
  • Unconnected in personal relationships
  • Struggling at work
  • Unable to make a big decision

--any kind of a puzzle in your life, really.

Many coaches have a specialty. Mine is helping family businesses, coaches and other professionals find extraordinary success, both personally and professionally.


Life coaching is similar to other types of coaching—imagine you're hiring a trainer at the gym. They're going to ask what your goals are, assess where you are on your journey and provide some new tools. What they're doing to your muscles, life coaches are doing to your thoughts and feelings around your circumstances (your mind), but without bucket loads of sweat.

Did you know that we have about 50,000 thoughts a day and the vast majorityare repetitive, non-productive thoughts?


For instance: "I'm so stupid for eating that third slice of cake last night." "My sister always treats me like a baby." "I'll never get promoted at work." All non-productive and repetitive chatter that keeps us down. Sound familiar?

Many times we're unknowingly stuck in a negative feedback loop. Then we wonder why nothing ever changes. Ha!

A life coach can help you notice your patterns and replace the non-productive thoughts with other, more supportive (and truthful) thoughts.


Here's a metaphor I like to use.

As a coach, I'm like a lighthouse keeper.

My job is to keep the lighthouse in working order, shining brightly. My client is like a lighthouse in need of maintenance. The light has dulled—maybe it's internal (a thought like "I don't know who I am anymore") and the lens of the lighthouse needs to be polished and re-focused. Maybe it's external—it's really foggy with poor visibility (maybe you just got laid off and aren't sure what to do next).

I can help you notice where your light has dulled or where the fog has clouded your vision and offer tools to see things clearly, to change perspective, to try new ways of living intentionally.

The benefits are real! My clients brag about reducing their blood pressure from sky-high to normal, reaching wildly improbablegoals like doubling their sales with their existing customer base or  planning (and starting!) a 3-month backpacking trip to Europe at age 59, adding some self-care like going away for a girls weekend and letting a husband have the kids for a weekend, even if he isn't thrilled about it…


Want to experience what a life coach does for yourself? Sign up for a free 30 minute Strategy Session.

Talk Less, Smile More

Anyone else singing the title?

If you are, it's likely because you've heard the "Hamilton" musical soundtrack. Perhaps you're like me, with a teenage daughter obsessed with the soundtrack, the story line and all things 1776-1800. "Isn't Alexander Hamilton dreamy?" says my teenager without a trace of sarcasm.

For those lacking 24/7 "Hamilton" knowledge, Aaron Burr (the guy who shot and killed Alexander Hamilton in a duel) is portrayed as a waffler, a political flip-flopper. He's like a chameleon, changing his political views and colors as needed for the situation.

He advises Alexander to "Talk less, smile more, don't let them know what you're against or what you're for..." in the song "Aaron Burr, Sir". Alexander replies, "If you stand for nothing Burr, what’ll you fall for?"

This American Revolution-era conflict combined with the most recent presidential election got me thinking about my convictions and activism. Do I know what I stand for? Do other people know what I stand for? Does it matter? What am I teaching my kids when I speak up? Or when I talk less and smile more to be agreeable and not have to take a stand?

I've spent some time thinking about this.

What I'm willing to fight for is kindness. Kindness in my family, kindness to strangers, kindness to myself. I believe the world's problems disappear with kindness. I will defend acts of kindness.

You? What do you stand for?

Celebrate You™ Workbook lets you Kick your never-completed Resolutions to the Curb

The easiest way to ditch the New Year's resolutions that fade by March and design REAL life-long changes that support you!



By designing a 30,000 foot, high-level plan for the year based on your values and intentions (Celebrate You™ Workbook), then breaking the plan into quarterly and monthly achievable goals (Celebrate You™ Planner), it’s easy to align your big intentions with your every day actions. You’ll see amazing results!

The Mission of the Celebrate You™ Workbook: Creating a Life Filled with Intention

To guide and support you in creating a life filled with intention and purpose so that you go to bed knowing you checked off the boxes that really mattered.


You’ll see the benefits of living with intention starting on day one.

· Become aware of your purpose each day

· Enjoy a deeper understanding of yourself

· Create boundaries around your day

· Design your day so it’s easy to accomplish your goals

· Add healthy habits into your day effortlessly

· Make your dreams a reality with inspired actions

Stop making those guilt-inducing, hard to accomplish New Year's resolutions that fade and welcome the Living on Purpose Philosophy of the Celebrate You™ Workbook.


Message from Lisa Honold, Founder of Celebrate You™

I’m Lisa Honold, Certified Martha Beck Life Coach and my mission is to inspire and support you as you create an extraordinary life, moment by intentional moment.  I’m founder of Celebrate You™, a global movement that celebrates intentional living. I dedicate this workbook to you, a human being who dares to celebrate your greatness.

Celebrate You™ Quarterly Planner: Daily Check in with your intentions

Create each day with intention, align with your values and go to bed satisfied that you checked off the boxes that really mattered in your life.



By designing a 30,000 foot, high-level plan for the year based on your values and intentions (Celebrate You™ Workbook), then breaking the plan into quarterly and monthly achievable goals (Celebrate You™ Planner), it’s easy to add inspired actions into each day. You’ll see amazing results when you spend 15 minutes each morning aligning with your intentions.


You’ll see the benefits of living with intention starting on day one.

· Become aware of your purpose each day

· Enjoy a deeper understanding of yourself

· Create boundaries around your day

· Design your day so it’s easy to accomplish your goals

· Add healthy habits into your day effortlessly

· Make your dreams a reality with inspired actions


Message from Lisa Honold, Founder of Celebrate You™

I’m Lisa Honold, Certified Martha Beck Life Coach and my mission is to inspire and support you as you create an extraordinary life, moment by intentional moment.  I’m founder of Celebrate You™, a global movement that celebrates intentional living. I created this planner to help me stay on track with my goals and intentions. I simplified my life by combining my daily journal, projects notebook, dinner planner, to-do lists and quarterly goals with my traditional daily planner to create ONE place for everything. I no longer need to search for the “right” book because there’s only one place to put everything. Give it a try—it’s a life changer!

Have you ever told someone your dream and cringed?

Not that long ago, I was hiding. I didn't want anyone to know I was training to be a life coach. I wasn't ready. I was following my heart but my ego still wasn't ready for any judgment from "Them". You know "Them"--the people in your life that may not understand your path.

I was an analytical CPA forgodsake. A woman who spent years building credibility and ascending through the ranks. How could I "go all touchy feely"? (Wow, what a mean girl I have in my head!)

Have you ever felt embarrassed to tell an acquaintance you're a coach?

It's OK to not be ready. To be following your heart, trying on a new way of being, quietly taking notes on how it feels. That's the first stage of change--internal shifts.

At some point, though, don't you want to be ready? To tell others how coaching has changed your life? To offer that same change to others?

Start practicing. By yourself. With strangers you'll never see again. Don't worry about how it sounds. Just practice. It's hard for everybody at first.

Here's what I wished I'd known then--when I believe myself, they do too. When I speak with confidence, they hear me.

Want to practice together? I've got a program called Jump Start your Coaching Business that's amazing.

Bucket List Item #34 (aka Singing Lessons)

Do you keep a bucket list?

It's one of the ways we keep track of our dreams in my program Celebrate You.

Growing up I was pretty sure I couldn't sing. Sure, I could hold a note on key, but my voice never sounded like a singing voice to me. I woke up with a desire to sing after a conversation with a friend's father, a well-known opera singer. He said that in his experience, anyone could be trained to sing, and he said it with such confidence that I believed him. I tucked that seed of hope into my heart and waited for the right time. Three years ago it sprouted onto my bucket list.

There it was, #34 on my 2014 Bucket List: Singing Lessons.

It was scary to write down. I couldn't imagine actually doing it.

And I didn't.

I re-evaluated that list in 2015. Do I write it again? Am I still drawn toward it? Yes.

Same process in 2016. It made the list a third time. Not many things stick around that long--either I do them or I lost interest in doing them and they disappear.

Singing lessons started to feel important. I started paying attention to coincidences and synchronicities. I collected names of recommended singing teachers. One day when I was feeling brave, I contacted my top pick and we set up a time to get started. Over time my confidence while singing improved. Singing in front of others is still scary as hell, but guess what--I do it!

Here's what I did not see coming:

Singing lessons have been a metaphor for finding my voice in other ways.

Seriously! Expressing myself through song, by opening my mouth and feeling vulnerable, yet still sharing my voice, is empowering me to be brave and speak up in other ways.

I am willing to be heard and willing to be judged.

Who knew that's where singing lessons would lead...

What's been on your bucket list for awhile?

What are you waiting for? I dare you to take a tiny step toward it...

2017 Word of the Year


That's my word for 2017.

I'm defining radiant as expressing love, confidence and happiness and it's the feeling of being aglow, sending out light, shining brightly, dazzling. It inspires me to take what I know in my heart and radiate it outward.

In previous years, I've chosen words like: abundance, live luxuriously, intuition, inspire... and I'm always amazed at how useful each word has been. How the word gives me permission to explore, learn and challenge longstanding beliefs. I cherish this tradition of choosing a word. Now each member of my family chooses a word, generally around Christmas time. I talk with friends about their words. It's a cool way to have a deep, genuine, ongoing conversation in a new way.

In my program Celebrate You, we spend time honing our intentions for the year before inviting this year's word. We try on a few words, hesitantly, seeing if they fit or if there's another word that feels more right. We share the word in the group and the power of the word increases. We continue to come back to the word each month and share lessons around our word.

I encourage you to spend a few quiet minutes to find a word you'd like to partner up with this year. Write it down. Refer to it often. Invite a friend to join you. See how it influences your year.

Expressive vs Receptive Skills

I've been involved in lots of habilitation therapy with my kids. Specifically for language, speech and communication. I have two kids whose ears are deaf or hard of hearing.

I remember clearly the big celebration when the therapist said "Your child is at or above age level for both receptive and expressive skills." Yay!

What are receptive and expressive skills? Receptive language is understanding and interpreting language input, both in words and gestures. Expressive language focuses on the language output, how a person expresses themselves grammatically and what they want and need.

When I apply this concept to my life, my receptive skills are huge while my expressive skills are developing. I am a life-long learner and love to take courses, read non-fiction books and keep stimulated with new ideas (high receptive skills). Soaking up a new idea is bliss. It's easy.  Historically, I've tended to put off teaching others what I know (developing expressive skills). My tendency has been to go learn more so I can be "perfect" when I teach, instead of teaching what I know, with all the holes and questions I still have. Learning is less risky; I don't feel vulnerable when I learn. This awareness of a pattern is causing me to exercise my expressive skills, take risks and express what I know.

In "Illusions: The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah" Richard Bach wrote, "You teach best what you most need to learn." I'm feeling that at a deep level. As I teach the topics I care most about, I continue learning, I ask questions, I stay humble and admit I don't know it all. It feels great to deepen the conversations and to hear others say "I never thought of that!" with a smile.

Which way will I change the world? How can I create kindness and inspire others to lead with kindness? Only by speaking out, using that expressive side. Only by risking "doing it wrong" will I be able to connect with others and invite the change that I wish to see in the world.

That's my plan.

"Be the change that you want to see in the world."  Mahatma Gandhi

When Pin the Tail on the Donkey isn't Fun

Recently a client described an awkward conversation with a family member like playing Pin the Tail on the Donkey. He was never quite sure where his target was or what he could say to make his point. This image has stuck with me.

Pin the Tail on the Donkey is a game from childhood, requiring the player to wear a blindfold, get spun around a few times then try to find the picture of the donkey and affix a tail in the correct location.

It's a game of chance and competition. You win, I lose.

It's a game that makes me feel a little jackassy, wandering around dizzy,  holding a donkey tail. It's a game where everyone is watching the player fumble around and laughing. And for perfectionists, fumbling in front of others and wandering around without the tools to succeed is our worst nightmare.

Imagine this person's discomfort in his relationship. He feels like everyone else knows where and how he's supposed to go, while he's only able to guess at where that is. He's feeling a ton of judgement about how he's doing. No wonder he feels unsure.

Have you ever felt like this?


Here's the exercise--take a relationship that's troubling you and find a game it resembles. Is it the old card game War? Monopoly? Boggle?

Then ask yourself why you picked that game. What are the rules you're uncomfortable with? How do you feel as you're playing?

Next, what game would feel better? How could you invite the feeling of playfulness while losing the "me vs. the world" mentality, the rules you don't like and all the perceived judgment from others? Is there a cooperative game that fits?

What if you chose a board game like Cranium or an athletic game like soccer, where you're both on the same team and have different skills? How would visualizing this type of game change how you approached a conversation with a family member?

Spend some time with this and let me know what you come up with.

What Home Feels Like

As I reflect on 2016, one of the great things about our six weeks of travel last Fall was teaching my kids how to feel settled and safe emotionally, in their hearts, when we're unsettled physically. How to live from a suitcase. How to pack and unpack every day. How to make each space we slept in feel safe and homey. How to value what we have. How to play with and enjoy each other. How to notice similarities and differences in all the settings.

This year we've created more unsettledness in our physical surroundings. We're moving an hour away in stages and have things scattered in boxes here and there. We left our home of 8 years last month with clothes, books and things we cared most about. I brought the basics for the smaller rental house and the extra stuff won't follow us for awhile, perhaps not ever. My husband is transitioning more slowly, living at our previous home and readying it for resale. We're building a house a few minutes away from the rental, questioning how our family functions and what structures would support us best.

There's discomfort in the unsettledness, the not-knowing and all the newness. A month ago, making a fire in a woodstove was completely foreign to me. Fire burns stuff automatically, right? I thought. How hard could it be??? I'll tell you how hard--we froze our patooties off the first week! The woodstove in our rental is the primary source of heat. And I like heat. After much practice, some advice from friends and Youtube and some hands-on lessons with my husband, I'm a much better fire builder. Now the time I spend making a fire is like a meditation inviting awareness.

We have at least two more moves ahead of us this year. One to another temporary space, hopefully on our property, and one to the home we're building. Yet right now we feel settled at this home, in this space. The rental is cozy and filled with heart. The move feels right. Crazy, but right. Our new community reflects our values and we've benefited from the love and support of friends in the transition.

We're home.

We feel settled in our hearts.

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines "home" as "the social unit of a family living together" and "a familiar or usual setting". I believe our family is enhancing our social unit by teaching the spirit of "home", the settled, safe feeling that is a family living together and caring for each other in any setting, familiar or otherwise.

Celebrate the Solutions

I didn't start out knowing how to parent.

When my kids were loud, cranky, mad, sad--anything but happy, really, I made it about me. Some of my thoughts: Other parents are watching me and I've got to DO something, I'm not a good Mom, This sucks!, I have to control them, They're going to become horrible adults because I'm not doing this right.

I parented in ways that I'm not proud of (hell, I still have my moments!)...until I started trusting myself. Trusting that I could navigate parenting based on my core feelings--what I'm about to do or say--will it feel like love or like fear? Will it feel like nourishment or like poison in our relationship?

If what I'm about to do feels like poison, I'll regret it later. If what I'm about to do feels like nourishment, I'll celebrate it later. I'm becoming more aware of my choice points before I do or say something.

What I've learned is that I'm not here to teach my children how to behave. I'm here to teach myself to behave and then watch as my behavior trickles down to them.


My kids have just as much to teach me about being "in the moment" and enjoying life one giggle at a time as I have to teach them about values and ethics.

I used to yell "Stop hurting your brother!", with my face full of anger and judgment. How much was I hurting my child as I said (OK, yelled) not to hurt others? What if, instead, I said nothing and hugged my child with compassion? Recognized that she's human and is doing the best with the tools she has (just like I am)? Realized that I'm expecting more of her than I am of myself? Later I could show her more tools; in that moment all she is asking for is love and connection.

Speaking of trickle down moments, last night my 10 year old and I were cuddling before bed. He asks if we can watch a TV show before bed. I say no, I'm really wanting to read my book and have quiet time. He says, "What other solutions could we come up with? Could you read your book for 15 minutes and then we could watch a show?"

I melted.

How many times have I asked that question: "What other solutions can we come up with?"  while negotiating conflict in our family.


He was listening!

I celebrated for many reasons--he asked respectfully, he partnered with me, he modeled how I'd like to ask questions, he had another solution ready that might work for both of us, he was ready to accept my answer either way.

All good skills for a human being of any age to have.

Dandelion: Perception is Everything

You spot it in your yard. A yellow flower has sprouted from the earth.

You could have two reactions:

:Hey, look at that pretty, little dandelion--so persistent that it grows where many plants can't. Its leaves are edible. The bees enjoy its nectar."


"OMG! Another hideous weed has emerged. Grab the poison! It needs to GO!"

Fascinating, right? There was only one fact. A flower emerged. What happened next were two stories about the fact. Two different ways to interpret the fact and give it meaning. Which way feels expansive and light? Choose that! Which way feels painful and annoying? Stay away from that!

That's what a life coach can help with--finding beliefs about the facts that are causing pain, annoyance, anger and digging a little bit deeper to see how else the facts can be interpreted. Always choose the light!

Too Legit to Quit!

The key phrase from MC Hammer's song "Too Legit to Quit" came to me as I listened to a friend tell me about building a new business. She's focused on building the foundation first--all the non-sexy pieces that come together to support a business.

I realized she's doing all this foundational work to become too legit to quit. She's got all the pieces together to make her feel like a successful business woman, therefore she presents herself as a successful business woman to the world and voila, she's a successful business woman. She's off and flying! No way will she quit after she's filled with this feeling of success.

Another friend, also self-employed, is creating this feeling of success a completely different way. She's becoming too legit to quit by jumping into the business, doing her thing and gathering customer feedback. It's a cycle that feeds her legitimacy and encourages her forward.

Two different models, yet the same feeling they're creating--that sense of legitimacy and purpose.

Another way to say it is "Fake it til you make it." When I was an intern for a big public accounting firm, I had no idea what it meant to "be a CPA". I watched experienced CPAs, did my best to emulate them and soon enough I felt like a CPA. At that point the awkwardness left and the world saw me as a CPA. And I was!

When you want something, start by feeling it. You want a vacation with your family filled with connection and love? What does that feel like in your body? Can you feel bubbling joy in your heart? Excitement in your chest? Butterflies in your belly? Pay attention to where it shows up and what sensations you get in your body.

I don't know what your feeling is exactly. I do know that it feels open and expansive and freeing. When you've defined how your feeling feels, then follow it. Let your body track that feeling and check in with your brain occasionally. You'll be shocked at how easily situations show up in your life that align with that feeling, once you start paying attention to it.

International Listening Weekend

Well, here we are at International Listening Weekend: March 25-27.

Listening is a subject near to my heart because 2 out of 3 of my children were born with hearing loss. My daughter is deaf in one ear, hard of hearing in the other and my son is deaf. They both use technology to hear--cochlear implants and hearing aids--and are doing great.

When they were babies and young children, I was always thinking about strategies to help them listen and understand speech, help them understand what information they missed (recovery strategies), help them access information in other ways (reading captions, looking for facial expressions). My job was to pay attention, ask questions to find out what they knew and where the gaps were, repeat information or model how to ask someone else to repeat themselves, find other ways to get the information. Oh, plus keep the babies from eating their devices. How many times have I rescued hearing aids/implants from being devoured (or at least sucked on)?

Add the complexities of "Did you physically hear me?" to "Are you listening or tuning me out?" that we all have and it's complicated. We've all been there--"It's not time for a cookie, sweetie." The child keeps reaching toward the cookie jar. "Baby, cookies happen after nap time, not now." The child's hand is now opening the cookie jar. Is this a normal child-testing-parent situation? Oh yes. And in my case it might also be a dead battery in a hearing aid that exacerbates the situation.

I will be celebrating International Listening Weekend with gratitude to all the scientists, doctors and volunteers that have made hearing technology possible, all the researchers who have studied brain and speech development, all the D/deaf individuals who have enriched our lives and the amazing parenting stories I've learned.